Originally posted 2018-09-19 06:45:38.
Autogynephilia is a narcissistic, sexualised self-reward syndrome. It is a non-homosexual man’s compulsive desire to be, or appear to be, a woman. It is satisfied by achieving this, more or less. Although there are other rewards, the most powerful one is by having sex as a woman.
That is to say, by being penetrated, usually anally.
Because it is self-reinforcing, the more often the satisfaction is achieved, the stronger it gets. It is narcissistic because it is focussed on the male self in role as a woman. Because sexualised reward is so strong, autogynephilia is extremely powerful and quickly becomes an obsession. Sex as a woman can turbo-charge it.
Autogynephilia is not always dependent on orgasm or coitus. It acts through other reward systems too. So a person with it may receive sexualised reward from dressing as a woman, from going to the hairdresser, flirting with men, even knitting. Having sex with a man as a woman is the most powerful.
When a natal woman puts on lacy lingerie or conforms to other gender-typical norms, she might feel sexy. She is receiving, through the culturally-contextualised idea of gender, (which is itself innate) affirmation that she is a sexy and feminine woman. When an autogynephile does the same thing, that person is receiving affirmation that she actually is a woman.
This explains why Moser and others have observed what they suggested was autogynephilia in women. But it’s not the same. A woman knows she is a woman. She seeks to be affirmed as a sexy and desirable one and to attract masculine men, so she makes herself feminine. This is exactly what an HSTS does, too.
For an autogynephile it is much more complex. His first need, and as the condition progresses, this need becomes increasingly intense, is to ‘be a woman’. The reward of being sexy is dependent on that. First you must ‘be a woman’ in order to be affirmed as a desirable one.
Sex as a woman: what binds all MtF transsexuals together
Transsexuals are divided into ‘homosexual’ and ‘non-homosexual’ variants. In Blanchard Theory, these are ‘HSTS’ and ‘AGP‘ (for autogynephilic transvestite.)
HSTS tend to be, on average, light in build, small, have more feminine features and speech patterns. All of these they have in common with feminine homosexual men and the link is easy to make. What makes them transsexual is their acceptance that their desire to submit to male sexual partners makes them women.
Remember, this is not about sex; it’s about gender. That’s a social interface that communicates our sexuality to others. So HSTS naturally allow their femininity to become dominant over any vestige of masculinity they may have, in order to be more affirmed as women, by appearing sexy and desirable to men.
So, like natal women, HSTS have a solid, realised understanding of their gender. Male-to-feminine HSTS are women because their sexuality demands it: they desire to submit sexually to men.
This holes ‘queer theory’ and particularly its ridiculous assertion that ‘gender identity’ and ‘sexual orientation’ are separate, beneath the waterline. Intrinsic to an HSTS’ sense of self is that she is a woman who wants to be penetrated by men. She would consider the whole idea of sex with a natal woman — or even another transsexual — repulsive. She would see it as ‘lesbian sex’ and she is a heterosexual girl. Sexual orientation — whom you want to have sex with— and ‘gender identity’ — whom you want to have sex as — are two sides of the same coin. Simple as that. There is no separation between the two.
This makes HSTS really easy to identify and that is what Ray Blanchard did, along with virtually every other serious researcher before and since.
But what about non-homosexual transsexuals?
AGPs tend not to look anything like as feminine as HSTS. They are, on average, taller, bigger, more heavily built, have more masculine voices, do not move in a feminine manner and so on.
Further, we know from their narratives that they are not initially attracted to men. Instead they are attracted, often from adolescence, to the idea of being women. They only become attracted to men as their gendered identities as women develop, if they do at all.
HSTS become women because they are attracted to men and (some) AGPs become attracted to men because they want to be women.
It’s easy for an AGP to play a male role in public. And this is what most do in the West: they live as men and satisfy themselves in private.
It’s almost impossible for an HSTS to do this. She’s just too feminine and her sexual desire is not to become a woman, but to have sex with straight men. She doesn’t need to become anything: she’s a woman already. Her sexual need to be penetrated makes her that. She just needs some sex like anyone else.
For many years I and others believed that if autogynephilia did exist in Asia, it was very rare indeed. And it is true that the Western profile, with associated cross-dressed masturbation, wearing women’s underwear under male clothes, middle-aged transition and so on, is rare. But in fact, there are plenty of AGPs in Asia.
No big deal.
In the Philippines and Thailand homosexuality is a big ‘so what?’ It’s OK to grow your hair long and wear hot pants to show off your legs — which, if you’re 5’11” are probably pretty amazing. Across south-east Asia, finding yourself standing next to a tall ladyboy making eyes is not even remarkable. It happens every day. The insertion of penis into rectum is not considered a criminal offence and never has been. It would not be true to say ‘everybody does it’ but most men, over 70% in some studies, have. They were introduced to sex by buggering batang baklas up darkened alleys. Not unnaturally, they are reluctant to condemn something they themselves so enjoyed.
Asian men are less masculine in appearance than Western ones. They tend to be smaller, have finer features and so on. You take one of these guys, do a feminising make-over and he could walk down the street in Paris or New York, as a woman, and nobody would have a clue. That means that for a person so inclined, dressing as a woman and behaving socially as one, is much easier.
Further, in all Asian cultures, it is bad form, to put it mildly, to offend another person. So people are inclined to go along. It is unusual to hear anyone misgender a transperson, even in the Catholic Philippines.
This extends to social courtesies; men will give up their seats for a ladyboy, just as they would for a woman, even if they know that she’s TS. (Of course, often they don’t.) This is because, even if the person does not really approve of your behaviour, in Asia, it is deeply impolite — and may result in violence — to compromise anyone’s assertions about themselves. To do so would cause loss of face, and there is no greater insult.
Sex is a powerful reward: you can learn to like sex with just about anything, if you’re a man. That is the foundation of ‘situational homosexuality’ as found in prisons, navies and all-male boarding schools.
Asian AGPs are conditioned by the culture they grow up in to see sex with men as affirmative. It is a simple fact that any male can perform anal sex. If such sex makes you what your dream says you are, then of course it’s attractive. Asian AGPs like sex with men because of its affirmative power.
Why then, in the West, are so many AGPs attracted to women? Well to begin with, that is how they start off in life: they are attracted to the whole idea ‘woman’, especially as a role they can invest themselves in.
AGPs do enjoy sex with women although such sex may not be affirmative. In addition, all AGPs, everywhere, prefer the company of women to that of men.
This explains the almost Platonic relationships evident between Western AGPs and their wives: they have actually become sisters. In many cases the relationship will lose its sexual component, or it will have been of low importance ever since the beginning. The AGP would be penetrating her best friend and in a culture where to be penetrated incurs a reduction of status, this causes problems.