When I was at Art School in Edinburgh in the early 1980s, there was only one place to be: the Hoochie-Koochie Club. Why? Because it was the only gay nightclub. Women liked it because there was an unspoken rule: straights were welcome, but no hitting on the women. Men liked it because we were much less likely to get battered in the face there than in any of the regular meat-markets in the city. There was no pressure; you could just chill, dance, have a drink. And although the hetero was low-key, one could still get lucky. But most of all, back then, gay was hip; now, gay is square.
They were culturally cool. The gays always had the best music. They were the best-dressed cats in town and if somebody said ‘you’re looking a bit gay today’ you knew you had your fashion statement bang on. It was the era of the New Romantics and everybody was wearing eye-liner and bleaching their hair. Gender signals were profoundly mixed. Women wore sports jackets and top hats over jeans and men wore earrings and chiffon. The gay zeitgeist was as hip as it could be.
Terisa is a ladyboy from Thailand. It’s immediately obvious how beautiful she is. Her performance of femininity is flawless. The word ‘Ladyboy’ covers a gamut of different local terms, all referring to the same thing, unmasculine, often highly feminine males who seek heterosexual men as partners.
A ladyboy from Thailand
A ladyboy from Thailand is known locally as a kathoey, though this is an English oversetting, as Thai doesn’t use the same alphabet as English. A ladyboy can be a feminine homosexual male, a ‘gay man’ in the West, although these are usually much more girly than is usual there. It is most commonly understood however to mean a homosexual male who has socially completed as a woman, invariably dressing and presenting as one, almost always taking hormones to further feminise her naturally beautiful features and to prevent any masculinisation. Most ladyboys remain genitally intact.
A ladyboy like Terisa is a natural homosexual male, that is to say, a congenital Sexual Invert. In cultures like those in southeast Asia, the bogus separation between sexual orientation and gender does not apply. A homosexual male is not a man, in fact Don Kulick, in discussing similar phenomena in Brazil, described them as ‘not-men.’ This is accurate because in order to be a man, one must be masculine, and there is no such thing as a masculine homosexual male — even though this may be disputed in the West.
I see a lot of immature, childish videos and web posts denigrating ladyboys and telling men how to spot — and so avoid — them. But why would anybody want to avoid them? Here are ten reasons why dating ladyboys is a really good idea.